When someone you care about is struggling with an eating disorder, it can be difficult to know how to help. You may feel helpless, unsure of what to say, or worried about making things worse. But your support can make a meaningful difference in their recovery journey.

If you or a loved one is struggling with an eating disorder, Watermark Counseling offers therapist-led eating disorder support groups that can help.

Understanding eating disorders

Eating disorders are complex mental health conditions, not just about food or weight. They often stem from deeper emotional struggles, including anxiety, depression, or past trauma. Recognizing that an eating disorder is not a choice but a serious condition can help you approach your loved one with empathy and patience.

Ways to Offer Support

Educate yourself
Learning about eating disorders can help you understand what your loved one is experiencing. Read reputable resources or seek guidance from a therapist to better grasp the challenges they face.
Practice compassionate communication
Instead of focusing on food or body image, express your concern with open-ended and non-judgmental language. For example, say, "I’ve noticed you’ve been a little stand-off-ish lately. I’m here for you if you’d like to talk."
Encourage professional help
A licensed therapist or specialized support group can provide the professional guidance your loved one needs. Offer to help them find resources, attend an appointment with them, or simply encourage them to reach out for help.
Avoid making comments about food or appearance
Even well-intended remarks like "You look healthy!" or "Just eat more!" can be triggering. Instead, focus on their emotions and experiences rather than their physical appearance.
Be patient and non-judgmental
Recovery is not a quick or linear process. Your loved one may have setbacks, and it’s important to offer unwavering support without frustration or criticism.
Foster a supportive environment
Create an atmosphere that encourages self-care and balance. Avoid dieting discussions, weight-related conversations, or other triggers that might reinforce disordered eating behaviors.
Take care of yourself, too
Supporting someone with an eating disorder can be emotionally challenging. Make sure to seek support for yourself—whether through therapy, a support group, or self-care activities—to avoid burnout and maintain your well-being.

You are not alone

Supporting a loved one through an eating disorder can feel overwhelming, but you don’t have to do it alone. Professional resources, therapist-led support groups, and mental health professionals can offer guidance for both you and your loved one. Your kindness, patience, and presence can be a powerful source of strength for them as they navigate their recovery.

If you’re looking for a support group that will help you in supporting a loved one with an eating disorder, we’d love to meet you. Reach out to edgroup@watermarkcounselingkc.com or sign up for our support group here.

How to Support a Loved One with an Eating Disorder